How many of us are happy today? Do you, who are reading this text, feel happy? If the answer is no, you may be part of the vast majority who ignore one of the most frightening truths about happiness: 95% of the time, it leaves you because you want it. Yes, happiness is a question of almost pure perspective. Understanding this is easy in theory, but in practice, my friend, it is for “big people”. And when I say big, I mean big in spirit.
If you don’t have your own idea of how to achieve a happy life, the website World Observer offers you as small a generic list as possible – given the subjectivity inherent in the topic. Any similarity to the foundations of Buddhist philosophy is no coincidence. Checkout:
15. Give up your need to always be right
There are so many of us who can’t stand the thought of being wrong – we always want to be right – even at the risk of ending good relationships or causing stress and pain to ourselves and others. And if you have a desire to be happy, it’s not worth it. Whenever you feel the “urgent” need to start an argument about who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself, “Would I rather be right or be gentler?” What difference will it make? Is your ego really that big? Except in extreme cases, why should you spend time trying hard to prove you’re right?
14. Give up your need for control and be happy
You must be willing to give up the need to always be in control of everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, colleagues or strangers you are currently encountering on the road, leave them alone. Let everything and everyone be as they are and you will see how it will make you feel better.
“I have seen several attempts to conquer and manipulate the world fail. The world belongs to the mind, therefore it should not be manipulated. “Whoever manipulates it corrupts it, whoever tries to keep it loses it.” – Lao Tzu
13. If you want to be happier, stop blaming others
Give up the desire to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving it more power and start taking responsibility for your life.
12. If you want to be happier, give up self-defeating conversations
How many people suffer from their negative, contaminated and repeatedly defeatist mindset? Don’t believe everything your mind says – especially if it’s a bit pessimistic. You’re better than that.
“The mind is an excellent instrument when used correctly. However, if used incorrectly, it is very destructive.” – Eckhart Tolle
11. If you want to be happier, stop complaining and solve the problem
Give up the constant need to complain about the many, many, many things – people, moments, situations that make you unhappy or depressed. No one can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or worse unless you let it. It’s not the situation that triggers these feelings in you, but the way you choose to face it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking to be happy.
10. Forget the habit of criticizing
Give up the habit of criticizing things, events or people who are different from you. We are all different and yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we want to love and be loved and always be understood. We all want something, and each of us desires something.
9. Give up your need to impress others
Stop trying so hard to be anything other than just to please others. Does not work like that. The moment you stop trying so hard to be someone you’re not, the moment you throw away all the masks and accept who you really are, you’ll find that people connect effortlessly feel attracted to you.
8. To be happy, open your resistance to change
Imagine this: The human body is programmed to resist change. Change is followed by the process of adaptation. Only by constantly changing can you reach a different intellectual level. Adaptation and change are stimuli aimed at increasing intelligence and perception. That’s why change is good. Changes help you get from A to B. Changes will improve your life and the lives of those around you. Follow your happiness, accept changes, don’t resist them.
“Follow your happiness and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.” –Joseph Campbell
7. Forget labels
Stop labeling people, things and situations you don’t understand as strange or different and try to open your mind little by little. The mind only works when it is open.
“The most extreme form of ignorance is when you reject something you know nothing about” – Wayne Dyer
6. If you want to be happier, give up your fears
Fear generally has two causes: ignorance and knowledge of possible events. The first case is solved with knowledge and the second case may or may not happen, nothing is certain, don’t be afraid of what will happen and if you already know the possible problem, why not fix it before it occurs ?
“The only thing you have to be afraid of is your own fear” – Franklin D. Roosevelt
5. Give up the excuses that prevent you from being happy
Send them away and tell them they’re fired. That you don’t need them anymore. Because of the many excuses we use, we often limit ourselves. Instead of working to grow and improve ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves and using all sorts of excuses and apologies that 99.9% of the time aren’t even real.
4. The past is the past
I know, I know. It is difficult. Especially when the past seems better than the present and the future seems so scary, but you have to keep in mind that the present is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you long for – the past you dream of now – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop kidding yourself. Stay present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey and not a destination. See the future clearly, prepare, but always remain present in the now.
3. Detachment from attachment
This is a concept that is very difficult for most of us to understand. And I have to admit that it was like that for me too – and still is like that – but it’s not impossible. With time and practice you will improve every day.
The moment you detach from all things (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – after all, love and attachment have nothing to do with each other; attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well yes , true love is pure, kind and generous, where there is love there can be no fear, and therefore attachment and love cannot coexist), the anger calms down and you become tolerant, kind and calm… you achieve one State that allows you to understand everything without even trying. A state beyond words.
2. Stop living according to other people’s expectations
There are too many people living lives that are not theirs. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents or their friends, enemies, teachers, governments think is best for them, and even according to what the communication media believing is better for them. They ignore their inner voices, their intuitions. They are so busy trying to please everyone that they lose control of their own lives.
As a result, they forget what makes them happy, what they want and what they need – and one day they also forget themselves. You have your life – this life is now – you have to live it, dominate it and, above all, not let it happen the opinions of others distract you from your path.
1. Let go of limiting beliefs about who you can or cannot be, what is possible and what is impossible.
From now on, your restrictive beliefs can no longer keep you stuck in the wrong place. Open your wings, fly and be HAPPY.